"A hot-tempered person commits all kinds of sin" - Proverbs 29:22.
A hot temper :
(1)drives a wedge between you and your loved ones. Esau's resentment
of Jacob led to the latter's exile in Haran (Genesis 27:41-43). As a
result,the family was separated. (2) can drive you into murder,like
Cain and Lamech((Genesis 4:1-24).
Here's how to control your anger:
(1) Think before you react. Our reactions are often based more on
feelings than facts . Someone says or does something and we suddenly
feel angry and assume they "made" us feel that way. No, you made
yourself angry by telling yourself,"Who do they think they are?", "I
don't have to take that","I'll show them who's in charge",etc. James
1:19 says," Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become
angry". To break anger's negative cycle, practise saying to
yourself,"Stop!" Then don't react until you ask the person to clarify
their words or actions. By stopping and listening to understand, you
interrupt your anger build-up and gain self-control. (2) Don't "speak
your mind" when you're angry. An old Irish poem says: 'We're
constantly hearing O'Flannagan say,"I gave him a piece of my mind" And
it isn't surprising with so much gone, that so little remains behind!'
Read Proverbs 15:1. (3) Avoid angry people. Like a bad virus, they
infect you, especially if you have a problem with anger (Proverbs
22:24-25). If you are in a conflict with someone who is currently
inplacable, take your leave (Proverbs 17:14). You can talk things over
later.
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