It is every woman's dream to get married as a virgin and have only one
husband for life,but factors like rape,child abuse and deceitful
relationships truncate this dream.
Many ladies become promiscuous once this happens. They feel they have
nothing to keep again after losing their virginity. This is not true
and here are the reasons.
To begin with,even if you "asked for it", God has forgiven you once
you repent and turn over a new leaf. (2 Cor . 5:17) . Jesus'
ancestresses included both Mary the virgin and Rahab the
harlot(Matthew 1:5,16) ; Rahab's past did not disqualify her.
Secondly,loose living only vindicates the men who abused you and gives
you a very bad reputation. Every rapist would want people to believe
that you willingly gave in, and a playboy would happily say "That is
why I dumped her" if you misbehave later.
Thirdly,a broken hymen returns to its virgin state if allowed to lie
fallow through abstinence. If you doubt this,experiment with
abstinence for about 6 months and then check yourself with a mirror.
You will be pleasantly suprised.
Moreover,faithfulness in marriage is more important to any sane man
than premarital virginity. Some virgin brides become wayward later,
while some non-virgins have learnt their lessons before marriage.
To round up,you have your reputation before God and man,your
self-respect and your secondary virginity to keep. Your future husband
will never believe any stupid male gist about you if you repackage
yourself. The ball is in your court.
